Saturday, March 3, 2012

The Differences Between Parents and Grandparents That Can Help Your Child

“A child can ask questions that a wise man cannot answer.”- Author Unknown


Parents often find themselves in the awkward position of negotiating rules for their children with their own parents. Each generation has its own set of parenting advice, fads and safety concerns. Odds are good that eventually you’ll have a disagreement with your child’s grandparents about child-rearing, nutrition or safety.

While it’s important to stand your ground on important safety issues and to ensure that there is some consistency between parents’ and grandparents’ houses, not all differences between parents and grandparents are bad. Your child can actually benefit from being exposed to different lifestyles, customs and beliefs. Here are 3 ways the differences between you and your child’s grandparents can actually encourage psychological and intellectual development in your child.  

Critical Thinking Skills

Perhaps your parents are devoutly religious and you’re raising a more liberal-minded child. Or maybe your parents were partying hippies and you’re a hard-working disciplinarian. Being exposed to differences in religious, political and cultural beliefs can actually encourage critical thinking skills in your child.

You might worry about your child’s grandparents indoctrinating her to a perspective that you find offensive or out-dated. But unless your child is living with her grandparents, odds are good that she’ll be more inclined to adopt her parents’ perspective. Being exposed to different viewpoints, however, can encourage her to understand other people’s thinking, to defend her own beliefs and to think critically about important issues.  

Understanding Rules

Although grandparents are well-known for their tendency to spoil their grandkids, some grandparents are actually stricter than their grandchildrens’ parents. While basic rules about how to treat people, honesty and kindness should be encouraged in both houses, some differences regarding manners, bedtimes and television are bound to spring up.

These minor differences in rules can actually help your child become an ethical person. Children who understand that some rules are a result of tradition and some are a result of basic, fundamental codes are better-equipped to make good moral decisions. Further, encouraging your child to respect the rules at both houses can help her to become sensitive to the differences that exist between different people, which promotes tolerance.  

Flexibility

Most parents know that children thrive in a predictable, routine environment. Understandably, then, it can be frustrating when grandparents alter bedtimes, change your child’s diet and otherwise alter the routine your child thrives under. However, an important part of growing in a mature adult is the ability to be flexible. Children should be able to thrive in a variety of environments, and slight alterations in a child’s routine can actually make him more resilient.

Sleeping in a bed with a trundle instead of her usual bed is not going to harm your child. Instead, it may make her better equipped to adapt to a variety of sleeping circumstances and sleep better during the night. Similarly, minor changes in diet simply teach your child to accept and appreciate new and different foods.

Flexibility is also key to having fun. Adults who are rigidly set in their ways struggle to adapt to changes in jobs and family structure and may suffer from depression as a result. Spontaneity and adaptability are both skills your child can learn when she has to adjust to a different environment at her grandparents’ house.

We’ve all heard that in life and in parenting it’s wise to choose our battles. Before you draw a line in the sand with your child’s grandparents, consider the possible benefits to your child of adapting to different environments. The changes that are so stressful to you might actually end up teaching your child new skills that will serve him well in adulthood.  


About the Author: Christobel Edwards became a grandmother two years ago and views this development as an important next step in life. She’s also learning to keep her mouth shut! She loves buying things for her grandchild and recently bought her bunk beds with stairs. This was a better choice than the Captains Bed design as it meant that if her daughter had another child the bunk beds would accommodate both children.

Rush Limbaugh's Shocking Bashing of Sandra Fluke: Obama Calls Her the "Victim"

Rush Limbaugh's bashing of Sandra Fluke, a 3-year Georgetown University law student, was completely uncalled for! And, he went far beyond "uncalled for"...what he said about Fluke was outrageous!

The Scoop

If you haven't heard about this craziness, I'll give you a quick glimpse at the recent news story.  Basically, she was addressing Congress on the behalf of Law Students for Reproductive Justice to state the organization's viewpoint about the Affordable Care Act contraceptive coverage regulation. Fluke, a "reproductive rights activist", was taking a stand for women, plain and simple, because we shouldn't HAVE to worry whether our health care insurance will over our contraception or not. (Fluke's statement to Congress last week can be read here.)

In my opinion, it doesn't matter who you are and why you need contraception. Some women need it for medical reasons, while others use it for the obvious reason: to make sure they don't get pregnant. So, for mothers like me, for instance, who have seven children and want to take a break for a while, but don't want to go to extremes and get their tubes tied...what do we do? If our health care insurance won't cover it, then we'll have to figure out how to add the cost of our birth control into our monthly budget.

For people like Fluke's friend, who has ovarian cysts and needs the birth control medication to control them, or another woman who needs it to treat her seizures, contraception is not a choice - it's a requirement!

Her viewpoint has now been turned into a religious and political argument, striking nerves across the country - and even worse: Fluke is being personally attacked and degraded for speaking her mind.

The Bashing

Upon hearing Sandra Fluke's perspective, Rush Limbaugh took her plea to Congress as a ploy to ask the government to fund her college sex-capades. He took it all the way to a personal level; forget the fact that she was representing the views of an entire organization - and women, in general! He called her a "slut" and a "prostitute" and rambled on and on about his assumptions about her personal sex life.

On Wednesday, Limbaugh announced:

"What does it say about the college co-ed Susan Fluke [sic] who goes before a congressional committee and essentially says that she must be paid to have sex. What does that make her? It makes her a slut, right? It makes her a prostitute. She wants to be paid to have sex. She's having so much sex she can't afford the contraception. She wants you and me and the taxpayers to pay her to have sex."

On Thursday, the fool went even further with his disgusting comments:

"So Miss Fluke, and the rest of you Feminazis, here's the deal. If we are going to pay for your contraceptives, and thus pay for you to have sex. We want something for it. We want you post the videos online so we can all watch."

Say What?!?!?!

And he isn't planning to offer any type of apology for his insults. Apparently, though, he did take his words back by adding yet another degrading comment: "OK, she’s not a slut, she’s round-heeled", another way of calling a woman "loose".

Another Idiotic Female Basher

Craig Bannister, a pompous looking dummy at CNSnews, also took Fluke's words out of context:


Then, he went on to quote and twist Fluke's estimated figure of $3000 that contraceptives cost a law student in college:

"At a dollar a condom if she shops at CVS pharmacy’s website, that $3,000 would buy her 3,000 condoms – or, 1,000 a year. (By the way, why does CVS.com list the weight of its condom products in terms of pounds?)

Assuming it’s not a leap year, that’s 1,000 divided by 365 – or having sex 2.74 times a day, every day, for three straight years. And, I thought Georgetown was a Catholic university where women might be prone to shun casual, unmarried sex. At least its health insurance doesn't cover contraception (that which you subsidize, you get more of, you know)."

The two obviously uneducated men are not the only people who bashed Sandra Fluke. As a matter of fact, everyone has a pretty strong opinion about the subject matter at hand, including religious organizations and political parties.

Despite the standpoint, religious, political, or ethical, women need access to contraceptives, and they should not suffer financially. Why are we even debating whether insurance should cover contraceptives or not?


But What It Boils Down To...

It seems a lot of people have missed the point completely. It's not about a bunch of college hussies getting their groove on with funding from the good old U.S. government. According to this article, our government sends hundreds of millions of dollars in so-called "aid" money to Egypt EVERY YEAR, but doesn't want to help women be able to afford the contraception that is essential in life, if not a medical necessity! What is wrong with this picture?

Okay, let's put men in our shoes for a moment. How about that? Jump into our shoes for a few days, to the men who wouldn't know the difference between a maxi pad and a pregnancy test, and let's see where you stand on the subject when you see it from our perspective. We not only have to think about ourselves, we also have to think about our daughters. Excuse me for saying it, but men have no business deciding ANYTHING about women's health. Some of us need contraception to regulate our systems and reduce the pain associated with monthly craps. How can men even relate to that? 

Presidential Support

Thank goodness there are men in this world who support women! President Obama actually called Sandra Fluke to ask her if she was OK after the verbal (and emotional) beating that she sustained. He also told her to pass on the message to her parents that they should be proud of her.

Also, Georgetown's president John J. DeGioia backed Fluke up. He wrote in an email:

“She was respectful, sincere, and spoke with conviction. She provided a model of civil discourse. And yet, some of those who disagreed with her position – including Rush Limbaugh and commentators throughout the blogosphere and in various other media channels – responded with behavior that can only be described as misogynistic, vitriolic, and a misrepresentation of the position of our student.”

Fluke says They're Trying to Silence Her
  
Name-calling is generally a way to shut someone up, or embarrass them to the point of making them cower away from their standpoint, right? When you call a woman a "slut", she's probably going to do one of two things: she's going to cower away and hide from the confrontation or she's going to slap you, spit in your face and continue to stand her ground. 

I applaud Sandra Fluke for not cowering - for continuing to stand up for what she believes in, what the Law Students for Reproductive Justice believe in, and what women, in general, need someone to fight for. Fluke says that the verbal assaults were "an attempt to silence me and to silence women in general from speaking out about their reproductive healthcare needs.

"What has been made clear," she said, "is that women will not be silenced on this issue, and neither will the men who support them."

My Opinion & Repercussions


If you feel like I do, you'll be happy to hear that Rush Limbaugh is already getting pounced on. Sleep Train and Select Comfort, two sponsors of his program, yanked their advertising during the program, saying that the things that Rush Limbaugh said did not align with their values. Next to walk were the basketball team, the Cleveland Cavaliers, and Quicken Loans.

However, here's the deal...curiosity killed the cat. Although "bad press" is not necessarily good, it can sure stir up the curiosity of people, attract them to the show to see what this idiot says next, and that's good for ratings, right? Viewers increase, ratings go up. And, what do advertisers look for? Shows with ratings. Don't watch his show. Don't give him any airtime in your house. He is seriously a sicko.

I don't think men should be able to have any say AT ALL on the subject of contraceptives! Why should they? It's not their bodies! Until "they" come up with a way for men to be the bearer of children and monthly visitors, they need to sit back and let the women vote on female-only policies and mandates!

I am disgusted that the female bashers whom I talked about earlier are even given airtime on television, and especially all over the Internet, for their degrading and asinine comments and I can't wait to watch the beat down that they get for letting their mouths run without thinking of possible consequences. I'm always telling my kids, "Think before you speak." That pertains to big-mouthed idiots on the television and radio, too.

I can tell you right now: the issue of health insurance coverage for contraceptives isn't going down without a fight between extremists across the country.

And, what do you bet Sandra Fluke is going to use her law degree to sue some people, stay in the spotlight to gain more exposure, and then start vying for a seat somewhere in government?


Friday, March 2, 2012

Evenflo's Big Kid Amp Review

It never ceases to amaze me how excited little people get when a box comes in the mail...and it's adorable to see the reactions when something for them is in the box! This time, it was Evenflo's Big Kid Amp. The bright red color and sleek appearance had my boys ready to give it a whirl immediately, right in the middle of the living room floor!

A sleek red one for any child!


I'm not going to bore you with the importance of keeping children in safety seats in vehicles, statistics on how many children are hurt each year from not being properly harnessed, or why older children still need to be in a booster seat while they're in the car...because you already know the answers! So, I'm going to skip right to the chase and tell you the reasons I love the Big Kid Amp.

Seat Comfort

The first thing I checked was how comfy the padding felt, because when you're riding around with kids in tow, if they're uncomfortable, you can forget about a smooth ride. There is plenty of soft cushion for your "big kid" on the seat of the Big Kid Amp and the padding is also removable for easy cleaning.

Cool blue for your boy!


Armrests

The armrests, although many are hard and not-so-comfy, are referred to as "Softtouch" arm rests, and are sturdy, yet foamy feeling for children who like to hang on while you're driving.


Cup Holders

One issue that has always been a problem with car seats is the cup holders - they usually aren't big enough for many of the sippy cups that we bring with us! I immediately noticed the elastic-y, flexible, grippy cup holders that can accommodate any size sippy cup. I love that!

A hot pink one for your girl!

Installation

Installation is fairly simple. The Big Kid Amp comes equipped with the tandem belt and clip, and the seat is supposed to be used with a regular car seat belt.

Who Can Use It?

The Big Kid Amp is made for children who are 40-110lbs and up to 57 inches.

Where Can You Find A Big Kid Amp?

You're going to find varying prices for the Big Kid Amp, depending on where you look and which color you like, but I was able to find it at Sears for only $24.99. Keep looking around - you may find a great deal on this sleek, sassy and super-comfy child safety seat for your "big kid".

Evenflo's Big Kid Amp gets a 5 stars from Mommy Rantings for comfort and safety.



I received a product for the purpose of this review. There was no monetary compensation for this post.

Thursday, March 1, 2012

Ocean Spray Fruit Flavored Snacks Review and My Blog Spark Giveaway!

Not all fruit snacks are created equal. I say this because there are some that are really soft and chewy, but have little to no taste, while others can be hard and difficult to chew, but they taste delicious! Then, there are the ones with fruity juices in them - my kids LOVE the juicy ones! But, wait! There's one that has the flavor of the juicy fruit snacks without the juice.



We had the opportunity to try out Ocean Spray Fruit Flavored Snacks. The kids said that they tasted just like the fruit snacks with the juice in the middle - they loved them! As a matter of fact, we were sent 6 boxes of the Berries and Cherries and I don't think they lasted two days in this house! (I even caught my husband sneaking them by the box!) They also have the "assorted fruit" flavor.

The Healthy Part

You can put Ocean Spray's fruit snacks on the "healthy snack" list, because they'll give your children their daily dose of Vitamin C and they're made with real fruit juice. Aha! And, kids don't know that the fruit snacks are good for them!

GIVEAWAY!

Did you say you wanted to try them for yourself? Here's your chance!

Ocean Spray and My Blog Spark have offered to giveaway Ocean Spray Fruit Snacks to one lucky Mommy Rantings reader! Here's what you need to do:

1) Leave a comment - What do you look for in a fruit snack? (Don't forget your email!)


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This giveaway will end at 4pm EST sharp on March 7th! Good Luck!

This review and giveaway was sponsored by Ocean Spray and My Blog Spark. Thank you! No compensation was received and all opinions are truthful.


5 Signs of Spring: Spring 2012 Style Watch

\Bright colors and floral prints are popping up all over department stores and fashion runways alike, which can only mean one thing - spring is right around the corner! It’s time to pull out the shorts and sundresses, unbury that sandal collection and, of course, do a little shopping! Before you hit the mall, take note of these five popular looks and you’ll be able to tackle all of the Spring 2012 trends without breaking a sweat!

Pastels

Soft, pastel hues are spreading like wildfire this spring. Look for soft sorbet-like shades of green, yellow, pink, blue, and orange to add an element of feminine detailing to any look. Color-blocking, in which you contrast two sections of solid colored fabric, has already proven to be popular this season. If you’re afraid you’ll look like a giant Easter egg covered in pastels from head to toe (trust us, you won’t!) try a pastel handbag or clutch. Faux croc skin bags have been all over the runway this spring in an array of pastel shades.

Feminine Details

Femininity is queen this spring but that doesn’t mean she isn’t fiery. The Roaring ‘20s are ablaze in modern form with lace, sequins and fringe alongside pleated skirts, reminiscent of the ‘50s and the popular cat eye sunglasses of the ‘60s. Floral prints, pastel colors and pairing dress socks with heels all fall into this prominent spring style.

Bold Patterns

If you’re looking to stand out this spring, this vibrant trend is sure to be right up your alley. Geometric patterns in bright and colors are making their presence known this season. Think Missoni meets tribal prints, in shades of orange, blue, green, red, yellow, and brown. Tops, dresses, even nail polish designs in these bold patterns are already proving to be popular.

Earthy Inspirations

Show your love for the outdoors this spring with an earthy color palate and tribal details. Browns, oranges, and greens are popular colors for the season and have been seen both in patterns and color-blocking. Woven texture has been seen on handbags and accessories along with beads, fringe, and tassels on all articles of clothing. Tortoise sunglasses in retro and cat eye styles are also a popular part of this style.

Sporty Style

In contrast to the delicate pastels and soft lace detailing of the feminine trend, this spring’s sporty style is here to make a statement. Dominant lines, spades, and stripes in strong colors like red, black, and white bring a little edge to the season. Zipper details, perforated fabrics, and sporty heels all work together to complete this look. Athletic embellishments on oversized bags and day clutches are also making their way into mainstream style.


Beth is a fashion writer who loves to keep up with the latest sunglass trends. This spring, white sunglasses (of the cat eye variety, of course!) and dress socks with heels have her heart. When she’s not tracking the latest trends, you can find Beth crafting or curled up with a good book.



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